Insight on dating from Sherrell Wright, am Entrepreneur and Single Mother of 2.
I’m a mother of two girls ages 2 and 5. I’m a technical writer by day and a freelancer at night. I’m also a licensed realtor and mobile notary. I plan small events and own a clothing line. And to add to that list, I’m single.
Why? It’s something I ask myself too. I’m tired of pulling the trash can around and spraying outside for spiders. I want to get dressed up and go on a date, but where does a relationship or even dating fit into my schedule? It doesn’t. They always say you make time for what you want. But is that something I really want right now? I’m currently so focused on building that being with someone or finding someone is not at the top of my list of things to do. Don’t get me wrong. It would be nice to have someone to chill with, go hiking, and salsa dancing with because honestly, I’m a relationship type of girl. I enjoy being with someone but the way things are set up now, I don’t know if I can handle it. The fuckery. People play too much or try to get too close. Just chill. After everything I have to do in a day, I don’t want to play games or feel obligated to anyone. Most men don’t get that. Why can’t we just be friends? Without the extra? Just be cool. Some guys feel like doing something other than texting means that you want something more from them. When in actuality, I really just want to be cool. I would prefer just having an actual friend to hang out with and get to know without the pressure. Guys tell me I’m smart, beautiful and strong and I appreciate the compliments. I truly do. But what’s the catch? Are you trying to lure me in for your own selfish reasons or are you truly genuine? What are your real intentions with me? What can you add? What’s your 5-year plan? What do you want yo be when you grow up? If you’re a father, what’s your relationship with your children AND their mother? I have so many questions because I’m at a place where my time and my peace have to be protected. I no longer want to waste time on things that don’t serve me.
Being a single mompreneur is hard asf. I’m just being real, especially trying to balance my children, career and my personal life. So when it comes to dating, the question now is, “What’s in it for me?” And I don’t mean to sound selfish or pompous. But my plate is full. Are you coming to add to the table or take away?
And with the new generation of women entrepreneurs, I feel this will be THE resounding mood.